Monday 7 January 2013

The Good, the Bad and the Ugly


I’ll admit it. I can be a horribly shallow person. Looks are important to me.

When it comes to submissive men, I often find myself in an uncomfortable situation. While I can feel attracted to a man intellectually and emotionally pretty easily, it is rare that somebody provokes a physical response in me. I am not even talking about staring, salivating or, lo and behold, getting turned on here. Oh no, I am just hoping for a flicker of something only to find that most submissive boys I’ve come across do absolutely nothing for me.

Of course, I don’t expect to be into everybody, but it would be nice to be into somebody every now and again. Sometimes, I wonder if I am too picky.

Ironically, this usually has nothing to do with the man’s body weight, age, hair colour, skin colour, hair style or any other physical feature. It’s the clothes that get to me in a bad way. Is it really that impossible to find a man who cares enough about his appearance to actually put some form of effort into his presentation?

I can’t shake the feeling that there is something wrong with me. Is it unusual to lust after men who look good in a well-tailored suit? Is wearing a clean pair of fitting jeans and a nice shirt really too much to look for? Yes, I’ve already adjusted my expectations downwards time and time again.

Once upon a time, I dreamed of style and elegance, of a man who would be elegant and dandy-esque, not necessarily in public, but in private and just for me. I want a dapper gentleman who’d be fetching in a more formal look. My dream boy would be interested in fashion and how he looks. He’d spend time on finding beautiful outfits he’d look appealing in instead of purchasing lots of ill-fitting fetish gear. Pictures from fashion shows actually get me more worked up than porn could ever hope to achieve. Male fashion is so beautiful. Sadly, only gay boys seem to agree with me.



 Just look at that. Aren’t these men just breath-taking in their beautiful clothes?

I’d be all over a beautiful boy like that, if only I could find one. The thing that puzzles me with this is that there are so many submissive boys who are quite effeminate in personality and interests yet somehow manage to dodge the topic of fashion entirely.

The ones that do care are usually the cross-dressers or those into ‘forced’ feminisation, but seeing a boy in girl’s clothes, no matter how fun, doesn’t usually get me hot and bothered. I know, this is probably a weird thing to say for a girl who likes boys in corsets.

I should stop ranting before my brain implodes, shouldn’t I? 

A Brief Mission Statement


Oh, hello there.

Didn’t expect to see you here.

Welcome, I guess.

I am not sure I will provide a lot of interesting stuff to read. For the time being, I am blogging to myself in order to create a repository of my thoughts on a number of subjects that have been preoccupying me lately.

Expect me to talk about submissive men, dominant women, corsets, gender roles and gender identity. I might also write about bisexuality and on occasion poly.

Who am I?

Just another blogger on the net in her early 30s. I’m a dominant woman, though I use this label with a certain level of reluctance. I’m a geek. I love reading and classical music. Mostly, I’m just a regular girl with a few kinky interests.

If you want to stop by and comment, great. If you don’t, that is fine as well. You’re invited to participate, should you so desire.